Anonymous asked: as someone who has a partner who's parent is NPD this blog is awesome!!! we recently moved out of my partners mothers house and her last parting words were something like " this hurts me more then it does you etc etc and I'm scared to leave you alone with her (meaning me) because she's abusive (I have BPD and have never once acted abusively towards him. and as someone with Borderline this hurts my feelings, help?
Thank you :)
I know it’s hard as hell, but try not to take anything a narcissist says to heart. They’re mean. You’ve moved out which means she is losing her narcissistic supply and is obviously not going to be happy about that.
Live with your partner, enjoy your new place and know that it’s okay to accept that the narc is speaking utter BS.
bloody-parts asked: this blog is helping me so much right now. both my parents have NPD and its been a rough week with them. thank you :)
Stay strong, bb :x
Can you imagine a website on domestic violence (but isn’t child abuse domestic violence?) offering advice to an abuser on how to get back together with their victim?
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Anonymous asked: Hello, is this blog a safe space for adoptees and queer/trans* people? I grew up with an adoptive parent who is an anti-social (also called sociopathic) narcissist, so her abuse was different than other narcissistic abusers.
Hey,
It is safe for both of those, yes. Submissions about sociopathic abusers are also fine
:)
I hope anyone in the US with a NM is having a bearable mother’s day :x
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I have analyzed and over analyzed this movie to the point where I don’t even judge it along the standards of a children’s movie anymore, because there is just way too many adult elements in it.
This scene particularly gets me. We already know that Gothel is a manipulative, overbearing, overprotective, emotional abusive mother. What most people don’t seem to get though, is just how emotionally abusive she is towards Rapunzel. She builds her up and gives her confidence and this sense of false hope that Rapunzel is so great and magnificent and the worlds best daughter, and then in the 3rd gif, she just shoots her down. Gothel is vain. She takes pride from other people’s pain and sorrow in order to make herself feel better. She feeds off of Rapunzel’s insecurities about herself, about the world, about everything.
In the 4th gif, you can see Rapunzel’s reaction to her. Her face just falls, but she isn’t so completely crushed. She’s heard it all before. Gothel’s “teasing” towards her has happened many an hour every day.
“Don’t take everything so seriously, darling.”
That’s just it though, Rapunzel doesn’t take it seriously anymore. She’s dealt with it for so long that it no longer phases her. In the 1st and 2nd gif she does look happy that Gothel’s acknowledging her strengths and confidence, but even then, that’s just human nature. We all want to believe the good things people say about us.
“Alright, so as I was saying, Mother…”
Just from this portion of the sentence you can tell that she’s heard it all before and that she’s - not fed up - but takes these things in stride.
Rapunzel’s at the point where she just doesn’t care anymore what Gothel has to say about her. She has been so emotionally abused that it shows plainly on her face.
And that’s what disgusts me about Gothel.
(via emotionalabuseawareness)
clean-slate-marred-deactivated2 asked: Hi, I am starting a blog that encompasses parents with NPD as well as ambient abuse and the struggles of being someone who was adopted and ended up with two parents who have NPD. I was wondering if I could link to this page from mine or use resources from here as long as I credit?
Absolutely :)
